Therapy is a space where we pause to care for the soul.
Therapy is a time & place to transform how we live our lives.
Therapy brings intentionality to the idea that we are all a work in progress.
My therapeutic approach is based on five main beliefs:
1). We all experience harm in this life.
2) When we don't know how to deal with the harm, we form behaviors that often make the harm worse.
3) Transformation back to our healthier state begins with TRUE awareness of these unhelpful coping skills.
4). This awareness becomes a strength when we begin to practice new choices that return us to wisdom and compassion.
5). In time, we rekindle our innate ability to both give and receive love to ourselves, others and our higher power.
Dr Judith Stills explains it well: Simply put, we are our story. Not so much the story of the events in our lives but the story we tell ourselves about the role we played in the events—hero or victim, beloved or unworthy, competent or careless. One powerful strategy for easing the pain of the past is to remember key aspects of the story from a more balanced, empathetic perspective. This is not an attempt to change the facts of the narrative. It is simply to see those facts through more mature, more empathetic, less injured eyes. Those eyes help you let go."
Using an object- relations/psychodynamic approach, I am committed to working deeply and kindly with the truth of your unique story and how it is influencing your life's issues. Here you can bring as much of yourself as possible into the light of a compassionate, professional relationship.
I intentionally have a small practice counseling just a few clients a day. This allows me to provide the highest level of attention and care. My clients tend to sense this, and it allows them to ease into the work of the sessions, and soon we are doing great work together.
I work best with adults and adolescents who seek therapy for :
Abandonment and neglect from childhood caregivers and/or life partners
Relationship struggles: Ongoing conflicts with loved ones ~ feelings of loneliness ~ difficulty finding and maintaining healthy relationships
Family Counseling: ~ Family conflict resolution ~ re-defining family after divorce or loss ~ Restoring family communication ~ Adult Children seeking healing with their parents/caregivers (and vice versa!)
Adolescent Counseling: Peer pressure & low self-esteem ~ social anxiety ~ relationships with other family members ~ ‘hidden’ behaviors ~ sexuality and relationships
Quarter Life Crisis: Feeling overwhelmed and/or underwhelmed by what life has to offer and the choices to be made ~ Feeling lost and afraid of the future ` figuring out relationships and support systems
Non-Substance Related Addiction: Experiences of being stuck in the cycle of using unhealthy things (e.g. damaging relationships,) as a way to find fulfillment. At the end, one feels let down and unfulfilled and once again attempts to cope by looking for another unhealthy relationship.
Un-lived / Under-lived Potential: Feeling like you are not living life to the fullest, figuring out how to engage the talents and fundamental desires that are truest to your heart.
Spirituality and Faith: Questioning God ~ Questioning Life ~ Feeling stuck in a spiritual rut ~ Struggling with longings for deep, spiritual connection
My hope is that together we can work toward your healing. After all, the struggles of daily life will continue to mount, but the soul remains, calling us to return to the light.
I offer in person and online therapy (for residents of Washington State.)
Sharmayne Arrington, LMHC
My office is located in Tacoma, WA. and my address will given after our phone consult.